How to know when you are stuck in ego: Signs & Solutions

1.  You keep trying to ‘make things happen’ but when they do, you’ve ended up leaving a wake of angst.

2.  You aren’t connecting to people and places around you because you feel they are beneath you.

3.  You think that you and you alone have the answer to most everything.

If you find yourself in this predicament, and it is a precarious situation, there is hope, but it’ going to take some practice setting aside that part of our personality that can sometimes get ‘out of hand’, our ego.

I’ve heard it referred to that ego stands for ‘Edging God Out’, or whatever you consider God to be.

When you are full on stuck in ego, there isn’t any room for the potential influences of synchronicity or the support of the Universe.

You are confused thinking that the way to get things done only relies on your view.  And that view is limited.

So to expand the view, first practice with the breath.  A deep, full one, from head to two.  Then, take another and this time, slowly let your own body begin to breathe for you rather than you ‘controlling’ the breath.

You might want a mantra, ‘this breath, this source, isn’t about me, it’s greater than me’.  Maybe visualize some white light or a shower of light flowing down through the crown of your head.

See the ‘you’ you are literally stepping aside and letting this light flow in to take it’s place.  Don’t worry, you can put your ‘you shell’ back on later.  For now, let go in this flow.

Once there, see where you are with your issue or problem.  If your mind starts creating a checklist, you are still in ego.

So keep practicing.  When the checklist and action items disappear and you can just be with the issue without a ready-made solution, you’ve separated a bit.  Good job.

If working with the breath was hard, take the issue that’s on your mind and put it in a plastic bag.  That’s right, get an empty bag, put the issue in it and put it outside for a minute.  Let the bag be the space holder.  See what happens….and let me know!





5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Diane Easley
    Jun 28, 2011 @ 08:52:23

    Are you in my head today? 🙂 I especially liked the typo “So to expand the view, first practice with the breath. A deep, full one, from head to two.” Feeling the breath connecting me to God (two) AND also in my entire body makes this practice really powerful. Thanks for writing!

  2. James Bulls
    Jun 28, 2011 @ 08:55:48

    Though it isn’t perhaps a sign of egoic or prideful conflict, another useful indicator of hidden personal difficulties was taught to me by one of my karate instructors; he said: “If you intend to do something but never actually do it, there’s a reason why,” and that reason would be reluctance to commit to a decision; fear or anxiety of the possible outcome; no genuine interest in the subject in question; or – as stated above – perhaps you look down on the other people involved or consider the subject in question beneath your dignity and thus find or create reasons to not do what you intend. Like you said, perspective helps – sometimes just stepping back a bit is all it takes to see what it is in you that’s “edging god out.”

  3. reikitrainingprogram
    Jun 28, 2011 @ 11:56:23

    Hi James, thanks so much for you additional insights, I agree, I love the quote by your karate instructor too! Thanks for sharing!

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