The Semi-Permeable Membrane of Separation: Finding touch through technology

semiWhen we are physically separated from a loved one, for an extended period of time, there is a feeling within of loss. The routine of connection has been disrupted. There is vacant space in the moments once filled by presence.
And yet, they still exist in the world, living and breathing. The connection is still there, despite lack of words or direct emotion.
It reminds me of the experience of when a loved one physically dies, the same detachment from presence, yet with those experiences, I still feel connection.
When my grandmother died, although deeply sad, I felt her transition. We had lived in separate parts of the country for years, with some visits in person. But we had cultivated a relationship despite lack of physical presence. We spoke on the phone, we wrote letters. We held each other in our thoughts. She never used social media, so we ‘touched’ each other in the ways she knew the best.
Now it is I that hold her in my thoughts. I don’t know what or where her soul has gone, but her impact on my life remains within me. When I think of memories with her, they make me smile, they make me cry, they validate who I am and who I was through my life.
But most of the living beings we know and love whom we are separated from have a sort of semi-permeable membrane through which we can connect called technology. Whether that is by phone, text, email or social media, it is a way of maintaining touch through this medium.
Yet, the substitute can be two-dimensional. What adds the third dimension? I think it is love, laughter and light.
These three elements can only be ‘shown’ through actions rather than automatic responses.
For instance, I’m a fan of friends leaving comments on the Facebook posts I make rather than just ‘liking’ everything. What do they think about it? What does it bring up for them? Those comments add a 3rd dimension.
Yet, we default to what is easiest, perhaps even what feels ‘safe’. If we comment on the social media membrane, we are letting ourselves be heard, be witnessed, be vulnerable.
Friends and family at a distance connect through these membranes, but if we were in person, would we really ‘like’ everything that is said? Wouldn’t that just be boring?

I am a writer and a counselor, so words are my tools I work with every waking moment.  It’s how I find meaning in the world, it’s how I keep touch on others and where they are.  Feedback is my lifeline.
So, like with this blog, I always welcome comments.

Copyright 2015 Eileen Dey


Sending Distant Reiki to Technologies that Help the World

Often Reiki practitioners like the practice of the healing art because it doesn’t involved any additional technologies, or ‘batteries’, as I like to say.

But for this week’s practice 2/23 8-9am , I’d like to focus on sending light to all the scientists, engineers, inventors, designers and companies that are actively attempting to make the world a better place through technology.

For the first 20 minutes, we return back to the ocean, where engineers are making ‘bubble curtains’ to minimize the devistating effects that human-induced sound has on sea animals. Offshore drilling, commercial fishing, etc. all have had detrimental effects on marine life. This invention promises to help lessen the impact.

The next 20 minutes, here are a few new technologies helping people in the world, the first, an app for touchscreens that allows blind people to type in braille, and how digital tools such as texting, Facebook and Twitter, are saving world languages from going extinct.

Finally, as always, our final 20 minutes are to our friends, families and loved ones who need some extra Universal Energy in their lives.

Thank you for being part of another group distant healing!  To be part of the group each week, login to the Reiki meetup group.

in light


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Technology and Reiki

Those two words seem counter-intuitive to each other.  However, in today’s climate, embracing technology to help promote and educate others about Reiki is necessity.

On a daily basis, I probably interact with at least 20 different programs, devices and applications that help to keep things at the Reiki Training Program and Fellowship in flow.

10 years ago, that was quite different.  But just like Reiki, I adjust with the situation that presents itself.  My latest software possibility is a program to help keep track of all the communications that happen day-to-day, not just for me, but for the Fellowship as a whole.  I’m weighing the pros and cons of adding yet another device, but the pros are starting to outweigh the cons.

What’s so interesting about embracing technology for the further promotion of Reiki is that demographic-wise, the majority of folks who have worked with Reiki don’t necessarily follow all the bells and whistles our modern era has to offer.

But that’s where I say, choose your market and decide for yourself what works for you.  I’m also a big proponent of contracting out those services that my technologically oriented mind just can’t wrap itself around.  I spent nearly a month trying to figure out the intricacies of e-book publishing and decided to have a contractor format my book, so that I could publish it in that format.

It’s only been a few years since I’ve integrated cell phones, Facebook, Twitter, my blog and the other email and software programs into my world, but I will have to say, that they have saved time, have allowed me to expand the work I do in many unforseen ways.

So, even though Reiki works way beyond what technology could ever hope to achieve, the integration is a match that helps to promote, educate and inspire. Yes, I’m saying inspire.  Without technology, you wouldn’t be reading these words!!  So mote it be!

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